A Marriage Worth Paying Attention To | This is Us
One of the first times in Television history I felt like marriage was portrayed realistically was in the first season of This is Us. This is Us showed marital irritation, anger, loneliness, guilt, and hurt. All in the first few episodes. It’s only been a few weeks since the end of Season 4, but I’m already missing Randall and Beth, aren’t you? If you don’t know who Randall and Beth are— I’d like to CRY MY EYES OUT NEXT TO YOU while we sob through four BEAUTIFUL seasons of This is Us.
Randall and Beth are not a perfect couple, but they do something extraordinary in Season 1 that, I think, makes their marriage one worth paying attention to. We see Beth and Randall having a hard conflict-filled season of life and, quick to not lose sight of staying grounded, Beth says, “I’m calling marriage tonight, cancel your plans”. They both cancel their plans and spend time talking out their problems with one another.
Calling Marriage. A phrase they both are familiar with, a ritual. Something one of them can call out and immediately the other knows their attention, time, and thoughts need to be focused on resolving the conflict in their marriage. They had a million things taking them in a bunch of directions, but they chose to pause and focus on their marriage. Maybe that episode hit you like it hit me— it’s important to take time to consider our conflict.
Personally, Brett and I have had some really challenging seasons. In heated moments, we sometimes need to take a step away from one another to take a step back toward one another. I need to take a few hours or days to figure out why I’m upset, and Brett needs to consider whether or not he really did something to hurt me or if I’m blowing things out of proportion (unfortunately, it’s often the latter). Sometimes we both feel overwhelmed with everything happening in life and it doesn’t feel like we have really deeply connected in awhile. That’s when we cancel some things. That’s when we “Call Marriage”.
It’s not about when we get a chance to talk about how we are doing or talk about our anger, our overwhelm, our frustration. It’s when we sacrificially make time to feel our feels, speak our hearts, and to listen to one another. To meaningfully connect.
Buying these mugs won’t solve your marital problems, but I do think there could be some serious marriage magic that happens when one of you gets out your matching mugs and tells your partner “Tonight, we’re calling marriage, I’ll make the tea”. Maybe these are your conflict resolving mugs. Maybe these are your grounding mugs. Maybe these are your, Lets connect together mugs.
Mugs can be personalized with hand-written phrases from your wedding first dance, wedding vows, pre-ceremony letters, or other special phrases. All mugs are ceramic, come in 11 oz or 15 oz, and can come with a colorful interior. See the options below:
